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    '''Questioning''' means that someone is still figuring out their gender identity, sexual orientation, or gender expression.
    ''See also [[Gender questioning]].''
     
    [[File:Gender questioning flag.png|thumb|A proposed pride flag for gender-questioning people, created in 2016 by enbygsrd]]
    Some people use questioning as an identity, if they still have not exactly figured out what their gender or sexual orientation is, or if they have no desire to figure it out and are happy with the label questioning. The only person who truly knows the answer to the gender question is you.<ref name=":0">https://www.thetrevorproject.org/trvr_support_center/trans-gender-identity/</ref>
    '''Questioning''' means that someone is still figuring out their [[gender identity]], [[Romantic and sexual orientation|sexual orientation]], or [[gender expression]]. Some people use questioning as an identity, if they still have not exactly figured out what their gender or sexual orientation is, or if they have no desire to figure it out and are happy with the label questioning. The only person who truly knows the answer to the gender question is you.<ref name="Trevor">{{cite web|url=https://www.thetrevorproject.org/trvr_support_center/trans-gender-identity/|title=Trevor Support Center: Trans + Gender Identity|work=The Trevor Project|access-date=13 July 2021|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20230610053540/https://www.thetrevorproject.org/trvr_support_center/trans-gender-identity/|archive-date=17 July 2023}}</ref>


    == Some things to ask yourself if you are ready ==
    == Some things to ask yourself if you are ready ==
    Here are a few questions that you could ask yourself if you are ready to begin the journey of figuring out your gender identity and/or sexual orientation.  The questions below focus mainly on gender identity.
    [[File:Gender questioning (7 stripes) by amiraisokish.png|thumb|Another proposed gender questioning flag, created in 2021 by amiraisokish. See [[:Category: Gender questioning pride flags]] for more.]]
    Here are a few questions that you could ask yourself if you are ready to begin the journey of figuring out your gender identity:<ref name="Trevor" />


    * How do you feel about your birth gender?
    * How do you feel about your birth gender?
    * What gender do you wish people saw you as?
    * What gender do you wish people saw you as?
    * How would you like to express your gender?
    * How would you like to express your gender?
    * What pronouns (like she/her, he/him, they/them and many [[neopronouns]]) do you feel the most comfortable using? (for a whole article about pronouns, click [[Pronouns|here]])
    * What [[pronouns]] (including [[neopronouns]]) do you feel the most comfortable using?
    * When you imagine your future, what gender are you? (for an article about genders, click [[Gender|here]])<ref name=":0" />
    * When you imagine your future, what [[gender]] are you?


    == Common doubts that people have when questioning ==
    == Common doubts that people have when questioning ==


    * Many people worry that their age might not give them the best idea on how they actually feel about their gender
    These are some common doubts people might face while they are questioning:<ref name="TGM">{{cite web |title=For gender questioning people|work=Transgender Map|last=James|first=Andrea|url=https://www.transgendermap.com/welcome/for-questioning-readers/|access-date=13 July 2021|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20230630105123/https://www.transgendermap.com/welcome/for-questioning-readers/|archive-date=17 July 2023}}</ref>
    * Others worry about the social impact that their transition might have, ie, if their place in school will be affected and things like that
     
    * Some people think that they might be confusing their sexual orientation with their gender identity
    * Many people worry that their age might not give them the best idea on how they actually feel about their gender.
    * Some others worry that they might not be able to fulfill the roles that society would set on them after they transition
    * Others worry about the social impact that their [[transition]] might have, ie, if their place in [[school]] will be affected and things like that.
    * Others wonder if they are not neurotypical, and that might make them feel the way they do about their gender<ref name=":1">https://www.transgendermap.com/welcome/for-questioning-readers/</ref>
    * Some people think that they might be confusing their [[sexual orientation]] with their gender identity.
    * Some others worry that they might not be able to fulfil the roles that society would set on them after they transition.
    * Others wonder if they are not neurotypical, and that might make them feel the way they do about their gender.


    == General suggestions for those who are questioning ==
    == General suggestions for those who are questioning ==
    If you are currently questioning, keep these tips in mind —they might help figure your gender out:<ref name="TGM" />


    * Experiment with your gender in safe, private spaces
    * Experiment with your gender in safe, private spaces
    * It is never 'too late' to transition
    * It is never 'too late' to transition
    * 'Gender tests' (the ones on the internet) are not recommended, as they are often not accurate
    * Internet 'Gender tests' are not recommended, as they are often not accurate
    * Being accepted is not an all-or-nothing binary.  Some people might accept you, some might not
    * Being accepted is not an all-or-nothing binary.  Some people might accept you, some might not
    * There is no typical or 'right' way to transition
    * There is no typical or 'right' way to transition
    * You do not have to start your transition immediately, you might have to wait until you are out of school, or in a safe place, or have the money and resources<ref name=":1" />
    * You do not have to start your transition immediately, you might have to wait until you are out of school, or in a safe place, or have the money and resources
     
    ==See also==
    *[[Coming out]]
     
    == References ==
    <references />
     
    [[Category:Practical resources]]

    Latest revision as of 11:48, 24 August 2023

    See also Gender questioning.

    A proposed pride flag for gender-questioning people, created in 2016 by enbygsrd

    Questioning means that someone is still figuring out their gender identity, sexual orientation, or gender expression. Some people use questioning as an identity, if they still have not exactly figured out what their gender or sexual orientation is, or if they have no desire to figure it out and are happy with the label questioning. The only person who truly knows the answer to the gender question is you.[1]

    Some things to ask yourself if you are ready[edit | edit source]

    Another proposed gender questioning flag, created in 2021 by amiraisokish. See Category: Gender questioning pride flags for more.

    Here are a few questions that you could ask yourself if you are ready to begin the journey of figuring out your gender identity:[1]

    • How do you feel about your birth gender?
    • What gender do you wish people saw you as?
    • How would you like to express your gender?
    • What pronouns (including neopronouns) do you feel the most comfortable using?
    • When you imagine your future, what gender are you?

    Common doubts that people have when questioning[edit | edit source]

    These are some common doubts people might face while they are questioning:[2]

    • Many people worry that their age might not give them the best idea on how they actually feel about their gender.
    • Others worry about the social impact that their transition might have, ie, if their place in school will be affected and things like that.
    • Some people think that they might be confusing their sexual orientation with their gender identity.
    • Some others worry that they might not be able to fulfil the roles that society would set on them after they transition.
    • Others wonder if they are not neurotypical, and that might make them feel the way they do about their gender.

    General suggestions for those who are questioning[edit | edit source]

    If you are currently questioning, keep these tips in mind —they might help figure your gender out:[2]

    • Experiment with your gender in safe, private spaces
    • It is never 'too late' to transition
    • Internet 'Gender tests' are not recommended, as they are often not accurate
    • Being accepted is not an all-or-nothing binary. Some people might accept you, some might not
    • There is no typical or 'right' way to transition
    • You do not have to start your transition immediately, you might have to wait until you are out of school, or in a safe place, or have the money and resources

    See also[edit | edit source]

    References[edit | edit source]

    1. 1.0 1.1 "Trevor Support Center: Trans + Gender Identity". The Trevor Project. Archived from the original on 17 July 2023. Retrieved 13 July 2021.
    2. 2.0 2.1 James, Andrea. "For gender questioning people". Transgender Map. Archived from the original on 17 July 2023. Retrieved 13 July 2021.